<div dir="ltr"><div>Hi all,</div><div><br></div><div>Trying to look back at these few days I notice it is difficult to treat the subject of "sexuality and age" in public. I read some very touching stories on ageing (Simon, Ana), but we only sidewise touched on sexuality, on the kind (what kind?) that goes with old age. <br></div><div><br></div><div>We only sidewise touched on sexuality, on the kind (what kind?) that goes with old age. But that is a construct (Miha). Thanks to Ruth for encouraging me, for pointing to how politic the subject is and to how body-chemistry
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be alive, and in relation to other people, that it opens up whole new
dimensions of relating and resonating with the world, whilst leaving
behind others. From<span></span> Murat's reaction I learned how awfully difficult it is to discuss the subject in public. <br></div><div>I think I will go on researching, but I will try to create safer conditions. It feels necessary and I am not afraid to fail (nothing to loose :)). If so, I will contact some of you again. I will need diversity.<br></div><div>If someone else on the list would be interested or can give me tips for a "how to" please write me a personal mail.</div><div><br></div><div>Ageing goes with loss as Murat said. <br>Socializing our houses and our ageing (Ana) won't be done for us, so yes we should start making kin, taking care (Sandy) early. <br></div><div>It can also be an opportunity. It is an opportunity for resilience and change. </div><div><br></div><div>Shu Lea thank you very much for giving me the opportunity to mutate my anger to an interesting exchange.<br></div><div><br></div><div>Ps.<br></div><div>I would love to see the exhibition Alan dreams of - Anger is a force .... <br></div><div><br></div><div> <br></div><br><div class="gmail_quote"><div dir="ltr" class="gmail_attr">On Mon, Sep 30, 2019 at 10:29 AM Allucquere Rosanne Stone <<a href="mailto:sandy@sandystone.com" target="_blank">sandy@sandystone.com</a>> wrote:<br></div><blockquote class="gmail_quote" style="margin:0px 0px 0px 0.8ex;border-left:1px solid rgb(204,204,204);padding-left:1ex">----------empyre- soft-skinned space----------------------
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I just returned from dinner with a robust, boisterous group of people
who live in cohousing. They decided to follow Donna's injunction to
"make kin", and they're successful at it. People of many ages, many
professions, including the elderly and the differently abled. They care
for each other.
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I helped build and help run a community radio station that brings
together people of many ages and many ability levels to keep alive our
motto "many voices, one station". We care for each other.
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Instead of looking outward at the horrors perpetrated by our society on
the old and sick and different and differently abled, we look inward and
build our own for our own. It's extremely hard, it's dangerous, it's
possible to fail. But if we don't make kin, if we don't take care of
our own, no one will. To that, I dedicate a large portion of my life.
Let others point out how awful life can be for the elderly, and let
others try to understand what can be done and how to do it. In the
warping presence of the destructive forces of capital, in the face of
all of patriarchy's evil, we'll simply do all we can to continue to make
kin and to care for each other.
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That's all I have to say on the topic of aging.
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Sandy
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