[-empyre-] sex death love - on AGEING

[Annie Abrahams]

Hi all,

Trying to look back at these few days I notice it is difficult to treat the
subject of "sexuality and age" in public. I read some very touching stories
on ageing (Simon, Ana), but we only sidewise touched on sexuality, on the
kind (what kind?) that goes with old age.

We only sidewise touched on sexuality, on the kind (what kind?) that goes
with old age. But that is a construct (Miha). Thanks to Ruth for
encouraging me, for pointing to how politic the subject is and to how
body-chemistry permanently changes the way it feels to be alive, and in
relation to other people, that it opens up whole new dimensions of relating
and resonating with the world, whilst leaving behind others. From Murat's
reaction I learned how awfully difficult it is to discuss the subject in
public.
I think I will go on researching, but I will try to create safer
conditions. It feels necessary and I am not afraid to fail (nothing to
loose :)). If so, I will contact some of you again. I will need diversity.
If someone else on the list would be interested or can give me tips for a
"how to" please write me a personal mail.

Ageing goes with loss as Murat said.
Socializing our houses and our ageing (Ana) won't be done for us, so yes we
should start making kin, taking care (Sandy) early.
It can also be an opportunity. It is an opportunity for resilience and
change.

Shu Lea thank you very much for giving me the opportunity to mutate my
anger to an interesting exchange.

Ps.
I would love to see the exhibition Alan dreams of - Anger is a force ....



On Mon, Sep 30, 2019 at 10:29 AM Allucquere Rosanne Stone <
sandy at sandystone.com> wrote:

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> I just returned from dinner with a robust, boisterous group of people who
> live in cohousing.  They decided to follow Donna's injunction to "make
> kin", and they're successful at it. People of many ages, many professions,
> including the elderly and the differently abled.  They care for each other.
>
> I helped build and help run a community radio station that brings together
> people of many ages and many ability levels to keep alive our motto "many
> voices, one station".  We care for each other.
>
> Instead of looking outward at the horrors perpetrated by our society on
> the old and sick and different and differently abled, we look inward and
> build our own for our own.  It's extremely hard, it's dangerous, it's
> possible to fail.  But if we don't make kin, if we don't take care of our
> own, no one will.  To that, I dedicate a large portion of my life. Let
> others point out how awful life can be for the elderly, and let others try
> to understand what can be done and how to do it.  In the warping presence
> of the destructive forces of capital, in the face of all of patriarchy's
> evil, we'll simply do all we can to continue to make kin and to care for
> each other.
>
> That's all I have to say on the topic of aging.
>
> Sandy
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